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Coping With A Disrespectful Teen
Posted by Norbert Georget in Communication, Extreme Teenager, Parenting Tips on September 9th, 2010
It does not take long to reach your boiling point when you have a disrespectful teen. Whether they ignore you, talk back, or simply refuse to go along with house rules, you can quickly find yourself raising your voice, becoming completely exasperated, or even wanting to quit your job as a parent. It sometimes seems like teenagers know just what buttons to push to send you over the edge.
If you have a disrespectful teen, you do not have to give up. In fact, there are some very quick behaviors you can start practicing that will help stop disrespectful behavior once and for all. While not all of these practices will work in every situation or with every teen, if you are at your wit’s end with your disrespectful teen, it is worth giving these practices a try.
Learning to Walk Away
Often, as parents, you might feel as though you are obligated to remain engaged with your teen no matter what. Whether you feel you have to have the last word or you have to keep pushing until your teen acknowledges your point, you may be suffering through more disrespectful behavior than you need to.
If you are having a conversation (argument) with your teen and frustrated about the way the conversation is going, or if you do not want to allow the conversation to escalate into an argument, then you have to learn that it is ok to walk away. If your disrespectful teen is attempting to engage you in an argument or trying to get his or her way on something, firmly and quietly repeat your decision, then let them know you will not continue the conversation, and walk away. Even if you have to leave the room, lock yourself in your bedroom, and jog in place to burn off the frustration, it is better than continuing to engage your teen on that level.
Tie Privileges to Behavior
You owe your teen a roof over his or her head, food to eat, and your love. Everything else (cell phones, video games, internet access, cable, free time with friends, money for the dance on Friday night, dating, a car, etc) are all EXTRAs. It might not seem like that sometimes, but if you start recognizing that each of the items your teen holds dear is most likely a want and not a necessity, then you can offer your disrespectful teen a choice. If your teen chooses to treat you and the other members of your family with respect and follow the house rules, then there will be privileges to have. If your teen chooses to behave disrespectfully, that behavior is a demonstration of a lack of maturity and privileges can be denied or removed from the teen’s life.
Following Through
In order for these tips to work, you have to be willing to follow through. You cannot just threaten to take away your disrespectful teen’s cell phone; if the behavior continues, you actually have to do it. No, you do not have to wrestle the phone out of your teen’s hand. Simply call the company and suspend the service. You will make your point, and in most cases, your disrespectful teen will choose respect over lack of privilege.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You.
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http://howtomotivatemylazyteen.com/ on what to do with a Lazy Teenager
Raising a Well Behaved Fun Loving Teenager – Teenage Parenting 101
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Disciplining, Main Blog Posts, Parenting Tips on August 8th, 2010
Raising your teen doesn’t have to be an ordeal (for either of you ). You CAN learn how to enjoy a calm, peaceful, and fulfilling relationship with your teen. The ultimate method in Positive Parenting….
If you wish you knew the secrets of raising an obedient, happy, and polite teen…
…if you wish you could put an end to the arguments, anguish, and stress your teenager is causing in your home…
…or if you just wish you could get them to clean their room and fill the car with gas every now and then…
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Then you’re going to want to lock the door, take the phone off the hook, and read this page carefully.
Here’s the story….
Waltons… Or Simpsons?
Interesting question. Whether your family is like the Waltons, the Simpsons or the Bundys…
Whether you’re living in the thirteen hundreds, the eighteen hundreds or the twenty-first century, it’s never easy raising a family.
Each and every one of us though will have something in common with the mythical characters and our counterparts of yesteryear.
To go from baby to toddler to mature adult, there’s one stage all kids will definitely need to go through regardless of anything else, and that’s adolescence.
Or in other words, the teenage years. Dun-da-DAH! This is when you’re supposed to hear the music from the movie ‘Psycho‘ echoing in your head.
Okay, maybe it’s not that bad.
But ask yourself this question: is your family closer to the Waltons…or to the Simpsons?
Teenage Parenting 101 <=== Click Here
Which Teen Is Yours?
The anguished teenager, the rebellious teenager, the bookworm, the go getter, the jock, the cheerleader, the nerd, the mixed up one who’s not popular but has the potential…the list of teenage stereotypes is practically endless, and if you look hard enough you’ll always find a teenager that will suit one of these stereotypes.
If you look harder still though, you’ll see that some facet of their personalities will fit each and every one of these stereotypes.
So what do you do then?
Raising a teen is hard enough, if you don’t know what mold they fit into how can you proceed any further?
That’s easy really.
And answering that question is what led Vanessa Thomas to start doing the research and coming up with the answers to her own kids problems.
In the process she learned a lot of things that can be helpful to any parent struggling with a difficult (or soon-to-be- difficult teen).
She wrote all about her triumphs and strategies to parenting teenagers to becoming well behaved fun loving teenagers in her new book called….
Teenage Parenting 101 <=== Click here for more info.
It comes in an ebook and audio book form.
In her book, Teenage Parenting 101, you’ll learn:
===> You don’t have to spend alot of money and buy your kids “Stuff” to have them turn out right.
===> You won’t need to try out any weirdo, new-age, wacko parenting stuff.
===> How you can avoid the big problems of drugs and sex.
===> It can be easier than you ever suspected to raise great kids.
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She put all this information into a fast-reading, easy-to-follow ebook (electronic book) you can download in mere seconds from now.
Once you get a copy of this book and follow its instructions…
Your Friends Will Be Astounded
By The Change In Your Teen
Maybe your friends are accustomed to nodding wisely, clucking about how tough you have it with your teen.
They might give you lip service about how sorry they are that you’re having problems with your children.
You and I both know that in their secret heart, they are thinking, “That could never happen to my child.”
Imagine how amazed they’re going to be when your kid does a complete turn-around, thanks to what you learn in Vanessa Thomas’s book.
Teenage Parenting 101 <=== Click here
It’s about 100 pages of nothing but the solid, useful truth.
And when I say useful, I mean it!
… Just Some Of What You’ll Learn
In Teenage Parenting 101
Here’s just a little taste of what’s inside this book (which you can be reading in less than 2 minutes from now if you want)…
===> The teenage “identity crisis” - why it happens, and what you can do about it. (page 18)
===> Rebels without a clue… it’s wired into teens to rebel. But they often don’t even know why. How you can cope. (p. 19)
===> Communicating across the chasm. Simple ways you can bridge the age gap, communicate with your teen, and help them to be independent without being delinquent. (page 26)
===> The guaranteed way to keep track of your teen. Want to know who they’re with and what they’re doing? Do this, and you will always know. (page 35)
===> Facing peer pressure. Despite what your teens say, they need your help with peer pressure. You can help — if you just know how (hint: it has nothing to do with “just say no”). (page 41)
There are 3 other bonus gift items for you, plus she also has an 8 Week Unconditional Guarantee. So you can’t lose…
So if you want peace of mind in your home with your teens, along with you standing proud knowing that you did a good job with raising and developing such great fun loving teenagers, you got to check this out right now….
Teenage Parenting 101 <=== Click here
All my best,
Norbert Georget
PS. I made arrangement for you to get it at a discounted price, but only until this Saturday at midnight. So you better check it out today…
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Is Your Teen Driving You Crazy? Parenting Book To Your Rescue
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Disciplining, Main Blog Posts on August 6th, 2010
Recently, I had a lot of requests and questions on how to
handle a teen that’s driving you crazy.
I came across this ebook that seems to have many of the
answers you may be looking for.
It’s called Help With Your Teen by Laura Carter.
This ebook covers everything from verbal abuse to what to do
with a teen that constantly uses foul language towards you.
If your teen is defiant, argumentative and uncooperative, then this ebook has all
the answers in a simple to follow way of handling your situation…
Help With Your Teen <—- Click Here
You’ll learn how to take control of your house, gain confidence to make the right decisions,
overcome your feelings of self blame, failure and disappointment.
All in all, it’ll bring peace back in your home. But here’s the deal…
I made arrrangement to make this new ebook, along with all the extra bonuses, to be yours at
a special price but only until this Friday at midnight. Then she’s
kicking it up to the regular price of $69 not long after that.
She even has an outrageous 60 day money back guarantee…
you can’t lose….
So if you want to get this great ebook, for less than a night at
a movie for two, you gotta act fast…
So you got no patiences for more details here? Check it out right now….
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If there is any resource that I can help you with your teenager
today, I will find it for you. Check it out right now….
Help With Your Teen <—- Click Here
To your success,
Norbert Georget
PS. I just discovered in this ebook some New Ways on how to cope with a teen that’s just plain lazy or unmotivated. Check out what thousands of parents are doing when there is a communication breakdown with their teens.
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Why 96% of Parents Experience Stress and Frustration
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Disciplining, Main Blog Posts, Parenting Tips on August 4th, 2010
Attention Parents: The constant battle between parents and
their teenagers is about to become a thing of the past…
I found this new book on why 96% of parents stress, frustration and
confusion happen during their child’s teenage years. It’s an excellent
book that can literally turn things around with your teen. Check
it out at…
The book is called Parenting Your Teen – What Every Parent Must Know by Sean Simser.
It virtually guarantees your success with your teen. Many of you
parents have highly recommended this book and I have to agree…it’s
simple, down-to-earth and a win-win situation for everyone….
but you got to act on it today…
Here’s the deal…
this new ebook, along with all the bonuses, is only staying at this price
until this Friday at midnight. Then he’s kicking it up to the regular price of $67….
So if you want to get this great eBook, plus all of the Extra Bonuses, for less than a
night at a movie for two, you gotta act fast…
Got no patience for more details here? Check it out right now….
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If there is any resource that I can help you with your teenager
today, I will find it for you. Check it out right now….
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All my best,
Norbert Georget
PS. Here’s just a small sample of what you’ll discover:
==> The #1 Principle of parenting teens that is actually overlooked by 99% of all programs. You’re wasting alot of energy unless you know this.
==> The 3 Critical ‘Rules’ of Parenting Teenagers.
==> Exactly what it’s like to be a teenager today and how you can use this knowledge to better relate to and understand your teenager.
==> The things parents say that actually push teens further away and what to say instead so that they’ll listen, consider your suggestions, and open up to you.
==> The one things that you are doing right now and must stop immediately that has been proven to create a thick barrier between parents and teens, encourage stress, and increase your level of frustration.
==> Plus much more.
Talking About Sex With Your Teenager
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Parenting Tips on August 2nd, 2010
Answering teen sex questions and talking about sex with your teen can be difficult, uncomfortable, embarrassing, and awkward….and that’s when it’s easy. For teens and adults, answering teen sex questions and dealing with teen sex issues can be one of the most difficult aspects of parenting. The fact is, though, that your teen probably already knows more than you could possibly imagine about sex, and what they’re really looking for from you is truth, honesty, and a sense of comfort.
Teens and kids even younger than that are exposed, not only through TV and movies but through advertisements and books and hearing kids talk in the hallways at school, to every possible sex topic. Kids can be watching the most innocuous television programming and be exposed to Viagra ads that openly discuss erectile dysfunction. If you’ve never even had the “birds and the bees” talk with your teen, that can create an entire litany of questions.
Yet teen sex and teen pregnancy are once again on the rise. In the states, the rates are increasing at a rapid rate. Experts blame the increase on the conservative right political efforts to have abstinence only education in schools. Many teens are not being taught about condoms, or are being given false information about condoms through these programs.
What your teen really needs from you is the understanding that even if both of you agree that teen sex is not something your teen should be doing and that abstinence is the best policy, that it is still possible that something could happen. Your teen needs you to arm him or her with the knowledge that using condoms does save lives, prevent STDs, and prevent unplanned pregnancy. Your teen must trust that you are the source of information that will rise above embarrassment, politics, or social pressure to be the voice of compassion, reason, and understanding.
If you have a teen, you can be guaranteed that with or without your teen’s consent, his or her body is being prepared for sexual activity. It is the way in which humans perpetuate the existence of our species…we are made to have sex. If you’re the parent of a teen, you need to be answering teen sex questions honestly and openly. Don’t stigmatize sex or make it difficult for your teen to come to you with concerns.
Since they most likely already know more than you expect, the role you play is more about building trust than actually teaching them anything about sex. Your role is to reassure them and be a safe place to turn. If you need help knowing what to say to your teen about sex, start by letting your teen know that you are there for him or her. Use opportunities like TV shows or other moments when sexual situations are portrayed to let your teen know that if he or she has questions, you’re happy to talk to them. Don’t minimize your teen’s feelings, and reassure your teen that you care. By opening the dialogue, your teen will be more likely to come to you for information than seek it from a friend at school or the internet.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator, parenting expert and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You. You may get a FREE REPORT called No-Nonsense Parenting for the Disrespectful Teenager. All the answers you’ll need to deal with your disrespectful teenager.
New Book Eliminates The Frustrations From Parenting Today’s Teenager
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Disciplining, Extreme Teenager, Main Blog Posts, Medical and Illness Issues, Mixed Family, Parenting Tips on July 29th, 2010
Good parents are not parents who necessarily know it all. Good parents are parents who are willing to seek help and information when they need it in order to meet the unique needs of their teens.
Raising teenagers can be difficult at best. While it may seem like an alien life form invaded the body of your formerly sweet and lovable child, your teenager really is not that much different than the child you once knew. He or she is simply attempted to establish his or her own identity, and that means separating his or her identity from you as parent. This is a natural and normal process, and you should reassure yourself with the knowledge that it is just a short period of time in the life of your child and it will pass.
If you are having a difficult time dealing with a disrespectful, angry, or out of control teen, my new book will help you greatly with your frustrations as a parent of a difficult teenager. It’s called NO-NONSENSE PARENTING FOR TODAY’S TEENAGER – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You.
Even as teenagers, your children need and want your love. Their attitudes can make it difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. It is important to understand that as much as your teenager wants your love, he or she also wants you to respect his or her individuality and burgeoning independence. When teens feel as though they are being treated like a children, if you are being “over” protective, if you expect your teen to believe what you believe and think what you think, your teen will rebel.
If you are struggling with a teen that will not listen, lacks motivation, is having trouble getting along at home and at school, is obsessed with technology or might be dealing with an addiction problem, this book can help you right today. NO-NONSENSE PARENTING FOR TODAY’S TEENAGER – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You is a book designed to help parents navigate the landmines of bringing up teenagers in a modern world of video games, internet, and cell phones.
Teens are under an enormous amount of pressure. Parents want them to do well in school and get into a good college and make decisions about their future. Teen friends seek to confirm and uphold each others’ ideas, thoughts, and identities and encourage each other to be as independent as possible. Peers pressure each other to try new and risky things, like drinking, drugs, and sex. Learn how to approach your teen and have open conversations that lead to better relationships, more trust, and less chaos in your home.
With my new breakthrough book NO-NONSENSE PARENTING FOR TODAY’S TEENAGER – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You you will learn why discipline and choice are important concepts when raising teens. You will learn to discipline your teenager without feeling any guilt. You’ll be able to handle your disrespectful and abusive teenager without any more yelling, arguing or hard feelings. You WILL still stay sane as a parent even when you take away all privileges and your teen still tries to defy you. You’ll learn to consistently keep to your disrespectful teenager’s behavior expectations and mean it. Ultimately, you’ll bring back peace in your mind and in your home.
For more information about this great book, simply Click Here.
Preparing Your Teen For College
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Parenting Tips on July 27th, 2010
While you might begin thinking about your child’s college education while you are shopping for preschools, you probably won’t really start thinking about college seriously until your teen is in high school. There are definitely steps you can take to help ensure your teen has the tools to succeed in life and in college from the time your teens are toddlers.
Academic success comes from having a stable and loving home environment, encouragement and enthusiasm about learning, and regular access to books. Reading out loud to younger kids and encouraging older kids to read regularly helps ensure academic success. While the preschool your child attends probably won’t have an enormous effect on your teen’s college search, the environment you provide at home can have a direct impact.
One of the most important components of your teen’s college search is the application process, which should begin as soon as your teen starts high school. This should not be a high-pressure process; even once your teen chooses a school and course of study it’s likely to change at least once. But it is important to encourage your teen to think about his or her future and to start the college search by looking at what colleges offer courses of study that match your teen’s future career plans.
The college search is a long sometimes arduous process. Most stateside schools require minimum performance results on standardizes test scores like the SATs and the ACTs. All colleges will require a basic application and many will require supplemental applications, essays, and letters of reference.
Typically, your teen should be taking steps in the college search all through high school. In the freshman year, students take the PSAT (a preliminary SAT test that helps identify the student’s strengths). Your teen should be thinking about what subjects excite him or her and how those relate to future job possibilities.
As a sophomore, your teen should attend local college fairs hosted by the high school or local community colleges. He or she should also request catalogs and information from schools that are of interest. By the end of the sophomore year, your teen should narrow the college search by region, course of study, and other determining factors.
In your teen’s junior year, your college search can include making visits to college campuses, talking to financial aid counselors about tuition costs and available aid, and narrowing down the search to some final choices. By early October of the senior year, applications should be submitted, standardized tests should be taken, and supplemental materials should be requested, like transcripts from high school, letters of reference from teachers and coaches, and application fees.
Colleges will normally make early acceptance offers by December and regular acceptance offers by February or March, although the details of financial aid possibilities as well as scholarships might take longer to determine. Once the college search process is completed, your teen will be able to relax and enjoy the rest of his or her senior year, confident about the where he or she is headed and making plans and dreaming about the future.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator, parenting expert and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You. You may get a FREE REPORT called No-Nonsense Parenting for the Disrespectful Teenager. All the answers you’ll need to deal with your disrespectful teenager.
The Secret of Parenting Teens
Posted by Norbert Georget in About Teenagers, Communication, Main Blog Posts, Parenting Tips on July 9th, 2010
Teenagers are the most susceptible group for succumbing to the various temptations presented to them, making parenting teens effectively even tougher. What adds to the difficulty is that most teens – even the ones who exhibit good decision making ability and reason more often than not – want nothing more than independence and the ability to make their own decisions about their lives. Teens have no capacity for understanding that even though they feel completely grown up and ready to take on the world that they are not.
Parenting teens comes with a special set of challenges – and a special set of rules. I like to tell parents that in many ways, parenting teens is a lot like parenting toddlers. In both cases, you’re dealing with strong-willed, sometimes ridiculously obstinate people who are trying very hard to establish their own personality. Toddlers are just small enough we can pick them up and put them in a playpen or lay them down to take a nap when things get really difficult. It’s not so easy with teens.
Yet there are effective ways for parenting teens that can make a difference both in your relationship and in the level of stress you’re both feeling. And really, if you’ve read my book or have been reading any of my other articles, you’ll know it’s not really much of a secret: the key to parenting teens successfully is COMMUNICATION. It’s exasperating sometimes to see a loving relationship between a parent and a teen deteriorate simply because neither side is willing to listen to what the other is saying or at the very least let go of their assumptions about what the other wants. That’s where communication comes in.
As a parent, it is okay to let down your guard and tell your teen that the reason you are involved and concerned and have rules they don’t like is because you love them, you want to keep them safe, and that you want to help guide them. The problem is that instead of telling teens how we feel as vulnerable human beings, many parents instead take a defensive attitude and resort to the “Because I said so” or “Because that’s the rule of the house” response.
The minute you’ve resorted to that, you’ve lost. If you approach your teen from the viewpoint that you support the fact that he or she is quickly growing into adulthood and should start taking on more responsibility and making more decisions about his or her own life, it can help your teen see that you are not the enemy. In fact, by “teaming up” with your teen and helping him or her to reach the goals they want to reach, you can break down the barriers between you and arrive more quickly at a new place in your relationship in which you can play the role you’re meant to play at this stage: guide and mentor.
Tear down the walls between you and your teen. Let them see that you worry about them and let them know that you love them. Loosen up the hold you have and encourage your teen’s independence. Support your teen’s individuality and desire to have his own or her own life. Only then can you begin to transform your relationship into one you can both live with.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator, parenting expert and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You. You may get a FREE REPORT called No-Nonsense Parenting for the Disrespectful Teenager. All the answers you’ll need to deal with your disrespectful teenager.
Improving Parent – Teen Relationships In Your Family
Posted by Norbert Georget in Communication, Main Blog Posts, Parenting Tips on June 17th, 2010
Parent – teen relationships are difficult to manage at times. Parents often joke about dreading the teen years, but the joking is a sign of the real discomfort that lurks behind every thirteenth birthday and the teen relationships parents are unsure how to develop. It can be a difficult time for parents and teens, learning how to relate to each other with the new expectations and pressures that occur on both sides of the table. Parent – teen relationships are often fraught with heated emotions. Parents have difficulty handing control over to teens and teens have difficulty believing that they still need guidance and guidelines. Having teenagers definitely makes life a little more challenging.
Teenagers today have access to all kinds of knowledge – and while that knowledge gives parent – teen relationships an edge because it’s easier to see that others are experiencing the same issues and provides reassurance that both sides will survive, it also gives teens access to information that parents used to control. How, as a parent, do you manage your relationship with your teen given the access he or she has to information?
The best approach is transparency. The more direct and honest parents are with their teens, the more successful parent – teen relationships can be. Your teens are going to know about things that you did not know when you were their age. Instead of doling out information as your parents may have done with you, your role will be more of a mediator of information: it will be up to you to make sure that what information your teen is getting is followed by discussions with you that help them fit what they are seeing and learning into the larger scope of the morals and lessons you are trying to teach them.
A good example of how this can work to enhance parent – teen relationships is with movies and music. Even if you don’t allow anything but G-rated movies and music into your home, with iPods and cell phones, there is no doubt your teen will see and hear what is out there. Rather than rule with an iron fist and attempt to forbid your teen from taking part in these activities, do two things:
- Get to know the music and movies that teens are interested in so that you can make a fair judgment about the content, and
- Understand that you cannot control everything your teen sees and hears, but you can maintain open communication and help them understand that what they see and hear does not always reflect your beliefs, values, traditions, ideals, or expectations
Having frank discussions with your teens about the risks of sex, the lasting affects of drugs, the addictiveness of cigarettes and alcohol, and about treating people with respect will earn your teen’s attention and respect and improve parent – teen relationships. In study after study and survey after survey, teens are clear about what they expect from parent – teen relationships: they want the adults in their life to be straight with them, to treat them like the almost-grownup people that they are, and recognize their individuality. The more you do that, the better your relationship with your teen will be.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator, parenting expert and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You. You may get a FREE REPORT called No-Nonsense Parenting for the Disrespectful Teenager. All the answers you’ll need to deal with your disrespectful teenager.
How To Cope With A Rude Teenager
Posted by Norbert Georget in Disciplining, Extreme Teenager, Main Blog Posts, Parenting Tips on June 11th, 2010
It seems sometimes like your child goes to bed one night as your precious little angel and wakes up the next morning as an alien being. It’s the only explanation for the rude behavior of a teenager, right? An alien invaded your child’s body when you weren’t looking.
In a way, it’s true…but it’s not aliens, it’s hormones. When puberty strikes, your teen’s rude behavior does too. There are so many different emotions and conflicts going on inside your teen that it can be difficult to cope. There are strategies you can use to help curtail your teen’s rude behavior and keep your sanity at the same time.
Whether your teen’s rude behavior comes in the form of abusive words and rude language or the sometimes more frustrating behavior of ignoring you, arguing, or talking back the first step to cutting the behavior short is to immediately address it – and not by being rude back or raising your voice or getting frustrated.
The best way to chill teen behavior is to remain calm and speak in an almost business-like manner. Tell your teen that the words or behavior they are using is unacceptable, that choosing to behave that way will result in consequences, and then follow through.
The follow through is the most important thing. If your teen’s rude behavior comes from something like using the cell phone at the table when it’s time for family dinner, take the phone. If your teen tries to keep you from getting the phone, don’t get physical; simply call the cell phone company and suspend the service for a day or two. Most teens will get the point rather quickly that the way they choose to behave will have direct and immediate consequences.
It’s important that you understand that even well behaved teens will have a bad day, say something smart, or talk back occasionally. You have to be willing to have balance. Let your teen grow and stretch his or her wings, finding his or her voice, but keep your teen from crossing the line.
As with a lot of parenting tips, the best place to begin is with the parents serving as role models for the behavior that they would like to see in children. In and out of the home, if your teen sees you using rude behavior, he or she will most likely repeat it. When you have made it clear what you consider as rude behavior then you can set the consequence that makes the most sense, either taking away the cell phone, the computer, nights out with friends, or video games.
Rude behavior and teenager sometimes seem synonymous, but they don’t have to be. You can make it clear to your teen that their own behavior dictates what privileges they will have and what level of trust you will have in them. Teenagers don’t have to be rude; set the right tone, tolerate the occasional emotional outburst, and teach them coping tools to get through one of the most tumultuous times of their lives.
It seems sometimes like your child goes to bed one night as your precious little angel and wakes up the next morning as an alien being. It’s the only explanation for the rude behavior of a teenager, right? An alien invaded your child’s body when you weren’t looking.
Norbert Georget is an accomplished professional speaker, teen motivator, parenting expert and author of the book, No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager – How To Feel Like A Good Parent Even When Your Teenager Hates You. You may get a FREE REPORT called No-Nonsense Parenting for the Disrespectful Teenager. All the answers you’ll need to deal with your disrespectful teenager.
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No-Nonsense Parenting For Today’s Teenager- Raising a Well Behaved Fun Loving Teenager – Teenage Parenting 101Raising your teen doesn’t have to be an ordeal (for either of you ). You CAN learn how to enjoy a calm, peaceful, and fulfilling relationship with your teen. The ultimate method in Positive Parenting…. If you wish you knew the secrets of raising an obedient, happy, and polite teen… …if you wish you could put an [...] […]
- Is Your Teen Driving You Crazy? Parenting Book To Your RescueRecently, I had a lot of requests and questions on how to handle a teen that’s driving you crazy. I came across this ebook that seems to have many of the answers you may be looking for. It’s called Help With Your Teen by Laura Carter. This ebook covers everything from verbal abuse to what to do with a teen that [...] […]
- Why 96% of Parents Experience Stress and FrustrationAttention Parents: The constant battle between parents and their teenagers is about to become a thing of the past… I found this new book on why 96% of parents stress, frustration and confusion happen during their child’s teenage years. It’s an excellent book that can literally turn things around with your teen. Check it out at… The book is called Parenting [ […]
- Talking About Sex With Your TeenagerAnswering teen sex questions and talking about sex with your teen can be difficult, uncomfortable, embarrassing, and awkward….and that’s when it’s easy. For teens and adults, answering teen sex questions and dealing with teen sex issues can be one of the most difficult aspects of parenting. The fact is, though, that your teen probably already [...] […]
- Out-Of-Control Teen – Positive Parenting Style Like No OtherIf you’re tired of your teen’s dishonesty and disrespectful behavior, then I found this highly successful online support system for you…. It’s called My Out-Of-Control Teen by Mark Hutten, M.A. I often hear the following statement from parents: “I’ve tried everything with this child — and nothing works!“ But when they participate in this parent program, the […]
- New Book Eliminates The Frustrations From Parenting Today’s TeenagerGood parents are not parents who necessarily know it all. Good parents are parents who are willing to seek help and information when they need it in order to meet the unique needs of their teens. Raising teenagers can be difficult at best. While it may seem like an alien life form invaded the body of [...] […]
- Preparing Your Teen For CollegeWhile you might begin thinking about your child’s college education while you are shopping for preschools, you probably won’t really start thinking about college seriously until your teen is in high school. There are definitely steps you can take to help ensure your teen has the tools to succeed in life and in college from [...] […]
- The Secret of Parenting TeensTeenagers are the most susceptible group for succumbing to the various temptations presented to them, making parenting teens effectively even tougher. What adds to the difficulty is that most teens – even the ones who exhibit good decision making ability and reason more often than not – want nothing more than independence and the ability [...] […]
- How To Raise A Healthy TeenagerRaising a healthy teen requires taking a broad approach toward meeting the needs of your teenager. Yes, it is important to address diet, exercise, and eating and sleeping habits, but it is also important to help your teen to be emotionally healthy as well. From about the ages of 12 through 24, the human brain [...] […]
- Improving Parent – Teen Relationships In Your FamilyParent – teen relationships are difficult to manage at times. Parents often joke about dreading the teen years, but the joking is a sign of the real discomfort that lurks behind every thirteenth birthday and the teen relationships parents are unsure how to develop. It can be a difficult time for parents and teens, learning [...] […]
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